Recently I have been taking inventory of various opinions I held as a young woman that I must now apologize for. I apologize to all who had more life experience than I, knew better but still listened. I apologize to my peers who had to listen to the ramblings that I made as an inexperienced young gal who needed to learn that wisdom of life would come through my experiences alone. I will share some opinions I had that I now withdraw and understand.
Judgement Made Years later √ (Check) Now I understand.
Opinions On Lifestyle Status In My Life
Why would you ever buy a white car? √ Own My Second White Car
Why would you drive that type of vehicle? √ I want one just like that
Why would you ever live in that town? √ Live In That Town
I would never buy a house built then! √ My House, Built Then
Why would you buy near a busy street? √ I guess some people do 😉
Why would you marry someone older? √ Never felt that kind of love before
Garage out front, Forget It! √ Or maybe so
Why would you live in attached housing? √ It fits your lifestyle
Opinions On Parenting Status In My Life
How could you lose your patience like that? √ Oh you’re overwhelmed!
Why do you have toys all over the place? √ Children need to play
Why do you give them so much? √ You want to see their joy
Why didn’t you comb your hair? √ Too Busy caring for them
Why would you let them do that? √ Picking your battles
Why do you run your life around naps? √ Its more peaceful that way.
Why is your child screaming in the store? √ A teachable moment OR missed nap
Becoming a mom has allowed me to view life differently, I reflect on the judgemental looks I receive from onlookers because my child screamed inconveniently because he is late for his nap or the snide remarks made to my child from a passer by. I realize more now that you just don’t know what someone is going through and it is almost impossibe to imagine what it is like to walk in their shoes. Right from the start we are all so different and our life experiences shape us so that nobody else will ever understand what and how we think, feel, believe or understand and that is where only God can fit in.
So, my advice:
To someone who hasn’t gotten there yet, don’t fret about what concerns others, be patient, you’ll arrive and when you do, you’ll understand!
Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forward. ~Soren Kierkegaard