“No”

I hear it all day long.  The answer to every question!  No means no, no means yes, and no means maybe but the answer is “No”.  “No” describes my life with a two year old.

Would you like to eat?  “No”.

Let’s go potty.  “No”.

It is time for bed.  “No”.

Which shirt would you like to wear?  “No”.

Would you like to say hi to Grandma?  “No”.

Would you like to go visit Nanny?  “No”.

I have developed a habit of asking my son questions and giving him options continuously so he feels like he has control over his little life.  I’ve read it often in parenting toddler books, articles, etc so it has become a habit I’ve made.  Now that the answer to every question has turned into ‘no’, my desire to ask questions has turned into a desire to advise what our next move will be.  Alas, my habit continues so the expected response will be “No” and despite public opinion, I know I’m still in charge.

I am aware that despite his “No” with conviction, there is a strong possibility that it may in fact mean, “Okay, Mommy.”